Good films make your life better

Managed to download the movie "Before Midnight" on my phone yesterday and I am done watching.
The film is a sequel to "Before sunrise" and "Before sunset" which I watched a few months back.


Basically, its a story of how this young french woman met an American guy at a train which lead them to spending their time in Vienna.


How they were so comfortable with each other talking about almost everything.
Well, the three movies would be about them walking and talking about their lifes.
So Celine (french woman) and Jesse (American guy) decided that they should not keep in contact with each other but meet Vienna 6 months later.
That was for the movie, "Before Sunrise".

 


"Before Sunset" was the follow up of the first movie itself.
9 years later, Jesse then wrote a book that depicts their love encounter at Vienna and became a famous writer which eventually lead to Celine being able to read his book. While being on his book tour in Paris, Celine went to visit him!
Jesse did went back to Vienna as promised but Celine did not.
So then they continued their talking and walking around in Paris constraint by time yet again.
However, Jesse is already married and has a son himself where Celine had a boyfriend.
In this movie, there was something memorable that Celine said when Jesse told her the real reason behind the book.

"I always feel like a freak because I’m never able to move on like this, you know? People just have an affair, or even, entire relationships. They break up and they forget. They move on like they would have changed brand of cereals. I feel I was never able to forget anyone I’ve been with. Because each person had their own specific qualities. You can never replace anyone. What is lost is lost. Each relationship, when it ends, really damages me. I never fully recover. That’s why I’m very careful with getting involved, because… It hurts too much"

Then came... "Before Midnight".
I was absolutely thrilled that its finally out.
Jesse and Celine finally became a couple and had wonderful twin daughters.
I love how the whole trilogy shows the strong connection between Celine and Jesse although they haven't kept in contact in years.
Their goofiness and strong communication never fails to amaze me.
Well. Some scenes actually made me giggle in the public. (cos I was watching the movie on my phone)
You all should totally watch these 3 films if you love romance films. The dialogue between these two lovers seem to get under your skin and its fascinating.

On a side note, Ethan hawke is so darn charming.


Time to go back to watching, The Bachelor.
Can't wait for my driving class later!! I was so pissed on Monday because the instructor ended my lesson 20 mins earlier than expected. I wanted to be able to drive more. But oh well.........
Its the long weekend!!!!!! Hooray!

 

The 11 differences between dating a BOY vs a MAN

When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked. You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player. I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents. Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.

“The child in us believes that if the original perpetrators — or their current replacements — finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness. Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.”  - Psychology Today

So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.

But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed.

I learned to love myself.  I became independent, confident, and started to value my self-worth. I went through hardships and heartbreaks and picked myself back up which built my strength and courage. Instead of relying on beauty as my source of empowerment, I focused on basing my empowerment on my intelligence, successes, values, contributions to the world and how I helped others. In a sense, I finally grew up. I went from being a girl to becoming a woman. And as a woman, you are attracted to very different things than you are as a girl.

A girl is attracted to boys. A woman is attracted to men. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up.

If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys. However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.

1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.

2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life).  A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.

3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.

4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.

5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.

6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.

7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.

8. A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.

9. A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.

10. A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.

 

-Extracted from amyfabulous.com

She just told me exactly what I needed to know.

 



Its a new week!! Start your day with a smile !!

Yes

Why being single is completely awesome

Being single used to mean that you were an unwanted, pitied spinster. It used to mean that you were just getting by until you found someone to settle down with, but I don’t think that’s the case anymore. Being single now means that you’re independent and have goals and that you care enough about your life to not just settle for whoever comes along, but to really get out there and experience different kinds of people and make sure you’re spending your life the way you want to. Being single doesn’t necessarily disregard the importance of companionship and love. It didn’t before and it still doesn’t. Single people surround themselves with friends and family and dates and lovers, but they also know that being in a relationship is not the end-all-be-all of your awesomeness. It’s wonderful if its something you have, but it’s not necessary. There are so many other things to be learned and experienced in your life, and that’s only one reason that being single is completely awesome. Here are a few others:

1. There is always the possibility of tomorrow.

You are not legally or otherwise bound to someone, and if tomorrow while you’re sitting on the subway someone who completely takes your breath away comes and sits next to you, you don’t have to feel guilty about being enamoured. You can even strike up a conversation with this person. You could even date this person. Your next great love could be right around the corner, and you always have that possibility to look forward to.

2. The only person you are responsible for is you.

You don’t have to check in with someone if you want to travel or spend an exorbitant amount of money on a gorgeous new floor-length dress from The Loft. Not that I did that yesterday. You don’t have to miss a holiday with your friends and family because you have to go to your significant other’s home. You don’t have to worry about anybody else’s student loans or life plans or goals. A little selfish? Yes. Ideal if you’re someone who wants to be able to pack up your things and travel at your own discretion? Yes.

3. You are free to pursue things that won’t wake up one day and leave you.

The thing is, love and companionship are beautiful and wonderful and what most of us would like to settle into eventually. But it’s delusional to think that flawless love and companionship is attainable. It’s not. There will always be struggles, and you have to realize that being completely invested in another person without anything or anybody else in your life is dangerous because that person could leave you one day– and what will you be left with?

4. You can own your independence.

You do not have to be married to be a functioning, happy and successful individual. In fact, you don’t have to be in a relationship either! There was once a time when women depended on their husbands to sustain them, and unfortunately, this may be a reality for many women still. However, if you are able to attend school, work for yourself, etc. you are privileged and extraordinary lucky that you don’t have to rely on anyone. Take advantage of that privilege.

5. You can do what you want on the weekends,

not shave your legs/face, pig out on chicken wings and watch Netflix by yourself, spend all your time with your best friend and above all else, not have to be the friend that is always talking about leaving the party to get back to your old ball-and-chain. You can, instead, be the friend who was talking about your latest dates, the fantastic lovers you’ve taken, the goals you’ve set for yourself and the goals you’ve accomplished, all while being proud of understanding the role that you want love to play in your life, and maybe the fact that you will not just settle for someone for the sake of having it.

-Brianna West

Not too late

Happy Mother's Day to my beautiful strong mum. Now that I'm almost 20, I'm grateful because you made me the person I am today. Always my number 1 supporter whenever I join a competition or work for a show. You've been there for me from the beginning. I may had unintentionally made you feel unwanted sometimes because of my bad temper but thank you for teaching me to be independent. Thank you for working so hard all these years just to make sure both Dominic and I get the best. Although, I know I don't say "I Love You" as often as I would when I was a little girl but I hope you know you're one of the most significant person in my life and I hope I'll be a great mum one day just like you.
You love Dominic and I, both of us, so much and it means alot.
I love you too :)

With Love,
Amelia